People love to give advice to a pregnant lady.
They see that blooming belly and can’t help themselves from offering up their expert tips on becoming a mom. And they get especially giddy when they find out you’re a first-time-mama.
They tell you:
“Make sure you do this”
“Don’t ever do that”
“Do what you think is best. You’ll know what feels right“.
And even after all the advice you receive over those long 40 weeks, you still never get the real dirt. The true nitty gritty about what to expect once your little love makes his debut into the world.
At least that’s the way it worked for me.
There were a few golden nuggets of information that never made it my way. Which is shocking, considering they’ve been some of the most impactful on my journey through Motherhood thus far.
I suppose nobody wants to give the ugly advice. The information that makes motherhood seem less appealing.
But dang, that’s the stuff I wanted to hear! That’s the stuff I needed to know!
So you can bet your ass I share these motherly tidbits with every expecting first-time-mama I know.
To be helpful, of course.
The Real Dirt on Motherhood
Your mind will no longer have an off switch. From the moment you wake, until your head hits the pillow, you’ll be on high alert. Actually, that’s not true. You’ll dream about all things motherhood too. It’s just what happens. Now that you’ve brought this little life into the world, you’re responsible for him 24/7. And as amazingly wonderful as it is, it’s constant. It’s your new reality. Enjoyable and exhausting all at once.
Patience is Key
Breathe in, breathe out. That’s my daily mantra. I find my inner calm tested regularly. A colicky newborn, a teething infant, or a stubborn toddler will do that. Patience will be your best friend in motherhood. I can’t underscore that enough. When you feel like you’re about to lose your ish, take that deep breath, look your beautiful child in the eyes, and let it go. I know, it’s not always that easy. But it’s worth a shot. You know, to avoid feeling like you’ve completely lost it.
You get none. Ever. From now on, you’ll have a constant companion. A sweet little human either on your boob, standing next to you at the toilet, or watching you get dressed each morning. Click here if you’re curious to know what it’s like to shower with a toddler in the house. Good times all around! I’m still getting used to this no privacy deal. It just seems so weird to have an audience for every.single.moment of my life. But, something tells me, as he grows older, and my audience isn’t so attentive, I’ll miss it like crazy.
Okay, to be fair, I did hear about this one. Actually I heard it all the freaking time. Almost to the point where it got annoying. “Get your sleep now, you’ll need it!” and “Rest up before that baby arrives!” Yeah, I got it, I got it. Or so I thought. Maybe I should have taken these words to heart. Because, holy shit, I had never felt so exhausted in my entire life. And I had the bags under my eyes and the greasy hair bun to prove it. Once that sweet bundle enters your life, you will know tired on a whole new level. So yeah, there’s that.
Most Intense Love
Really, nothing can prepare you for this. The amount of love and emotion you’ll feel for that little life is immeasurable, it’s indescribable, and it’s fearless. It’s a feeling like you’ve never felt. It’s almost scary.
As Elizabeth Stone so accurately puts it,
“Making the decision to have a child – it is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”
And boy was she right.
Guest Post by Kristi File from Grace and Foxtails
Kristi File is a wife, stay-at-home-mama, blogger, and a lover of all the happy things. She resides in beautiful Southern California where she was born and raised. Her days are a potpourri of Target runs, coffee refills, and toddler delights. And she wouldn’t have it any other way. Follow along, at graceandfoxtails.com. You can also find her on Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram, and Twitter.